Sometimes it's just crazy being ADHD

You hear things differently and realize the ambiguity of language. But...you may lop off a few words. For example, "we are going straight there from the office." Sounds clear, right? But..."after we go home first." It gets left out. Now, that changes the meaning of it, but you need to listen to the whole message if you have ADHD (or if you are anyone else) not to fuck it up.

The brain does not usually take in all the words it "sees" when you read a sentence. I suppose it makes sense I wouldn't hear every word that's said, too.

I don't think it's a lack of focus because sometimes I am acutely aware of everything that's being said such as when I'm in court. I hyper-focus them, or if I'm out running. I feel like I can hear grass grow and crazy shit like that. That's a bit of an exaggeration, but not completely.

It's not that you can't focus. It's just that you focus on your own terms regardless of how you might try to put yourself in someone's mold. In reality, you have to receive accommodations, or people have to put up with you.

I'm leaning hard into the latter with a, "Fuck you if you don't like it" kind of attitude (this does NOT apply to my family because I care if my issues affect them. I will keep trying for them. For others, I will not be more tolerant). Basically, I'm striving to live an unapologetic life. I'm fine with who I am, and, if some doesn't like it, in the words of Robert DeNiro, "fuck 'em!"

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